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We Don’t Talk About Those Things Here

Anne Jackson had an interesting post a while back about things we (don’t) talk about at church.  She asks:

what is something you feel you can’t say in church, or around other christians?

Some of the responses are kinda silly.  Others are pretty serious.  Most are brutally honest.

When the church is silent on these issues, or not open to discussion, people will go elsewhere for advice or help.  Topics like sex, finances, or struggles with kids/spouse are important ones for the church to address.

Any specific ones jump out at you, either from your own history or from the comments on Anne’s post?


5 responses

  1. thanks for the link…this post continues to blow my mind!

    June 20, 2008 at 9:20 am

  2. Chuck Whited

    I really enjoyed the link. Thanks for sharing it.

    June 20, 2008 at 11:24 am

  3. Jaime

    I think we never talk about how some people are just annoying and hard to like. I know (as a former Christian schoolteacher) that it’s easy to talk about *loving* everyone, but it’s hard to teach people what to do when they just don’t like someone.

    I think Jesus probably had moments where he thought, “Ugh, if Peter interrupts me one more time I’m going to scream,” or “Really, how hard would it be for John to close his mouth when he chews?”

    I think most people just paste on a friendly smile and fake their way through it.

    June 20, 2008 at 1:53 pm

  4. Alicia Z

    I think that we don’t talk about how we ignore the “annoyances” of big donors. We don’t talk about HOW to love sinners–we actively repel them. We don’t talk about how, even though some of us have different political beliefs, God loves us the same. We don’t talk about things that hurt us. Some people don’t talk about their deepest fears. Some don’t talk about their goals or desires. There’s a lot we don’t talk about. It’s a wonder we SAY as much as we DO! (Kinda makes you think about what we ARE saying…)

    June 20, 2008 at 4:36 pm

  5. Thanks for sharing everyone!

    I agree that more often or not, we say we love the sinner but actually we don’t. Not all sinners, just the ones that aren’t like us.

    Politics are such a strange thing. The perception seems to be (in the church at large) that “good” Christians are Republican. I know lots of great, Godly people who are Democrat or even Independent. The problem comes when moral issues that the Bible speaks about are in play. The Bible isn’t clear on how much taxation is good, only that we should pay them. Homosexuality, abortion, caring for the poor, now those it’s a little more clear on.

    Too often, it degenerates into phrases like, “You Republicans are against helping people because you don’t support universal health care” or “You Democrats don’t respect the sanctity of marriage!” These broad generalizations only hurt honest, open discussion, but we inevitably seem to fall back into them.

    As for deeper fears, I’m afraid I will never own a 42″ Vizio Flat Screen Television. We should talk about that some more. Pastor, maybe you can do a sermon on being generous towards the poor Director of Student Ministries? 🙂

    June 20, 2008 at 5:13 pm

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